It’s OK Not to Be Supermom
It’s OK if we don’t feed our kids a perfect, nutritionally balanced meal for breakfast, lunch and supper, absolutely every day of their little lives. We all know that sometimes life gets in the way of being perfect. Kids won’t eat the healthy foods we want them to try. Hectic schedules make it tough to cook some nights. And then there are all those signs and ads, tempting us to just give in to the kids’ pleas to stop for a juicy burger or a pizza instead of eating the healthy meal we planned out for the night. Faced with all this, really, it’s OK if we aren’t supermoms.
Every parent wants to do what’s best for the kids. Whether that be feeding them healthy foods or setting the right example by eating well ourselves, it can be tough to keep to our own standards all the time. And don’t even get me talking about expert recommendations or trying to keep up with the supermom down the block who grows her own vegetables, raises her own chickens and bees, grinds her own ancient grains, and bakes healthy Paleo breakfast treats for her kids while running between hot yoga and spin class, and still never has a single hair out of place!
Be Kind and Patient with Yourself
We need to be kind with ourselves. Not only that, but we need to understand that it isn’t reasonable to expect perfection from ourselves. We wouldn’t put that on anyone else, so why do we always think we need to be perfect? Same goes for our parenting, and most especially for the way we feed our kids. So today I’m doing something a little out of the ordinary: I’m writing a list of things that I’ve decided to be OK about. These are just things I’ve accepted are the way they are, and I’m not going to beat myself up about them.
This post was inspired by Amber Myers’ “Hey, It’s Okay” post at Airing My Dirty Laundry and will be part of her linkup there. To see other fun posts about what’s OK, please check out her blog and look for the links at the bottom of her post. If you write your own “It’s OK” post, you can share your link there too!
It’s OK That We Ate Packaged Soup
We love soups and stews in our house. And I usually make my own, rather than buying something from a can or a powdered mix. But when Halloween coincides with the oldest daughter’s midterms and the middle daughter’s end of term test period, life is already hectic enough.
Between trying to keep the kids on track and helping them with Halloween costumes, I just wasn’t in any shape to be chopping vegetables and making soup. So we decided to use a corn chowder mix that my oldest brought home from the farmer’s market this week. The cream base is a commercial mix, but all of the veggies were grown locally on the farm where she works and dried in the farm kitchen. So it wasn’t my own corn chowder recipe or a traditional Quebec-style pea soup. But it was a fairly healthy soup, and it helped out a local business that gives jobs to disabled folks. So I’m good with that!
It’s OK That the Kids Ate Hot Dogs
It’s OK that the kids ran out to trick or treat last night without eating supper. Even though we had a lovely corn chowder from Spectrum Farms on the stove and ready before they left the house. It’s OK that they didn’t eat before going out because I know they had hot dogs at the fire hall, which was their first stop.
It’s never easy getting teenagers to keep up a balanced diet, especially when they’re very busy with school and extra-curricular activities. We do our best to put good food in front of them and to remind them to eat fresh fruits and vegetables. If they sometimes skip a meal or eat something highly processed, I try not to stress over it. As long as they eat well at the next meal, they’ll be all right.
It’s OK That I Don’t Like Eggplant
I think eggplant is a simply gorgeous vegetable! Whether it’s a shiny black one or a pretty pale purple, I really think eggplant is visually very attractive. But it’s OK with me that I’m not particularly fond of it as a food choice.
For a while I felt kind of guilty about this one. I really wanted to like eggplant. I really wanted to find at least one eggplant recipe that I could say I loved. But when that didn’t happen, I decided it’s just OK to have some vegetables I don’t like.
And if I had to pick one vegetable that I wasn’t going to like, it’s good that it’s eggplant. It’s not like it’s a superfood or anything. If you look at the nutritional analysis for eggplant, it’s mostly water – which I can get plenty of other places. It does contain some anthocyanins, but not if you peel it before cooking. And 100 g of eggplant actually provides 11% of our daily requirement for manganese. But I’d rather get that from the lovely Lima beans in my homemade carrot and cauliflower soup, thanks all the same!
So I’m OK with just not eating that one vegetable too much. (And I suppose I really should cut up that pretty pale purple one that’s been sitting in the fridge for a couple of weeks and add it to a spaghetti sauce or something, before it wilts away to nothing….)
It’s OK That Not Everyone Will Like Sweet Potato Burgers
My oldest daughter is about the only one besides me who really enjoys many of the orange vegetables and fruits I want to include in our diet each day. She enjoys squash, sweet potatoes, and cantaloupe, for example, when her siblings turn their noses up at all three. She’s quite keen on the idea of trying a recipe for sweet potato burgers, despite the fact that Daddy and her siblings are probably not going to be fans.
But it’s OK if they aren’t fans of orange foods because all the kids do eat carrots, and we tend to prepare those quite often. And I can get some of the kids to at least try eating apricots, peaches, papaya, and mangoes. Hopefully, one day they will all find a good group of dark orange foods that they love. In the meantime, at least we don’t have to fight with them over dark green vegetables!
I’d love to hear about the things you’re OK with! Please drop me a comment and tell me the things you’ve decided to accept about your life. It will be great for us all to share in a moment of self-kindness.
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